Family Constellation & Systemic Constellation Therapy
Family Constellation & Systemic Constellation Therapy is a samatic therapeutic approach originated from The Zulu People of Africa and Bert Hellinger, a German psychotherapist.
It aims to address and resolve hidden dynamics within families or systems that may be causing emotional and psychological issues in individuals. This type of Therapy can be used with individuals, with families, and even with business’s, systems, and organisations in creating wellness, harmony and successful outcomes.
It explores inherited patterns, unresolved trauma, burdens, limiting behaviours and ancestral entanglements that shape our lives. This method of healing, is a samanic experience, an embodied feeling of “releasing”, creating an alternative way of looking at the past, dealing with the present, and having a different future of ease, freedom and even joy!
BELONGING, ORDER AND BALANCE, (Uncle B.O.B) – The Orders of Love. Bert Hellinger refers to these concepts as the Foundation of Family Constellations.
BELONGING – Everyone “belongs” to a family. However, some family members, for whatever reason, have been disinherited, or removed from existence, never to be spoken of again. These could include miscarried pregnancies, the Black Sheep of The Family, The “Uncle Bully” etc. However for a Healthy Family System, all members of the family, regardless of their cirumstances or actions, belong. Denying someone’s rightful place in the family, can lead to imbalances and disruptions within the system.
ORDER – There must be correct “order” to a family. A Healthy family will recognise the importance of a clear and healthy hierarchical order. Parents or older generations are Upstream, children and younger generations are Downstream. If for example the oldest child steps up to fulfill the role of a mother or a father, in their absence, this creates imbalance and disruption within the system.
BALANCE – An exchange of Giving and Receiving within relationships. There should be an even flow of love, support and resources for the family members. If one family member is always receiving and not giving, this is out of balance. It creates fellings of resentment, or guilt, of revenge even. Restoring this balance too, is crucial in maintaining a healthy and harmonious family system.
It is important, the Orders of Love are a guideline within Family & Systems and Tiriana has been trained in this modality with Jo Amrein-Palairet and Tracy Cartwright from ANZCI – Aotearoa New Zealand Constellations Incorporated. Tiriana is also a member and qualified facilitator of ANZCI and a valued Tiriti O Waitangi Tangatawhenua Representative Liason with Te Arawa Iwi.
